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Haha I love the wife one. Oh god… That sucks. Thank god my lover doesnt like this game. I tried to get him to play so that we could spend ‘pixel’ time together when we werent together. But he much rathers enjoys facebook or emails.
My RL boyfriend thinks that everyone in SL is a furry ageplaying escort, so there’s no chance of him showing up here.
@ #2- I’ve never understood why some people have such an allergy to the mute button. It’s effective in getting rid of all but the most determined stalkers. My friends who won’t mute people have the most ridiculous excuses as to why they won’t touch that mute button (“I like to give everyone a second chance!”) If that’s the way they feel, then they’ve lost the privilege to bitch when someone’s upsetting them!
3?!?
/me sighs.
I’m gonna tell #3 what a lot of people probably won’t. We live in a society where loyalty and responsibility are no longer valued and ‘tolerance’ amputates our tongues.
#3, you are a horrible person. I hope your wife figures out that you want to cheat on her (with some cheap virtual whore(s), no less) and leaves you, taking everything you own in the process. I hope you burn in hell.
I am utterly serious. You’re not a douchebag or a jerk. You are a BAD PERSON. If people can’t remain faithful, they shouldn’t get married. iRL or iSL.
I completely agree with you AngryGirl, it makes my blood boil.
do you remember what it was like, #3, before your wife found SCD?
3, if your entire SL joy was fucking a married man, get out of the damn game. There’s way too much to do inworld, including other guys. Even ones who won’t lie to their wives.
I’m so sick of married people escaping to SL to cheat. Deal with your real life dag namnit it before you infect the lives of others. These role play relationships are so off. If you are unhappy in your RL get a divorce or get counseling, jeez oh peets.
I find myself agreeing with a majority of the comments. Including Elizabeth’s. Which means, it’s either the beginning of the apocalypse or I’m in some strange parallel dimension.
The longer I’m in SL the weirder ppl get. I’m married RL and my manz can walk in my study while i’m on SL and I’ll never be doing anything underhanded or that he shouldn’t see. Why would I compromise a living person who loves me for a computer graphic???
I agree….Married ppl get your shit together rl and stop getting in here creating love triangles all over the shop. The more SL relationships I witness, the more I realize they are doomed for failure and hearts get broken.
If SL impacts on your life so much that you get upset and tears flow, it’s time to take a break.
Married ppl who come in here looking for sneaky relationships, get your head out your ass and get real.
I’m on the against #3 boat here. I roleplay sex in SL, but I *ROLEPLAY* sex in SL, in an RPG community, much like I used to roleplay a vampire seducing humans to feed on them when I played on Vampire: The Masquerade forums, now I roleplay a sex demon in SL. My boyfriend knows about it. He roleplays too (not in SL though). He knows I’m exclusively in character and wouldn’t want to cheat on him, NEVER. But that’s the thing, he KNOWS it, UNDERSTANDS it, and I’m not playing with my heart, my heart is his and his alone.
“…and I’m not playing with my heart, my heart is his and his alone.”
This is the same excuse #3 and every other cheater uses to justify their whoring around. How convenient it is to disregard the hearts of those you play with, but calling it RP/cartoon sex or anything else is just a horse of a different colour. Glass houses, Lucilla…
@ If SL impacts on your life so much that you get upset and tears flow, it’s time to take a break.
that means everyone would take a break. Its so easy to say that. I took a 3 year break. I just couldnt do it anymore. I was 19 and in a RL relationship (engaged, not married) that was sucky (to be nice about it) when i started playing. Its so easy to say its a game when you start out playing.. you’re on maybe a little while every day..then you get hooked. its like starting over for some people. For me, 4 almost 5 years ago, it was like finally getting to be myself..only better. Long story short..My then fiancee (total computer savvy geeque btw) had installed spy programs that would screenshot the computer screen every so many mins/seconds/ whatever, kept chat logs (yep house wives, non computer savvy people…they have those o.O) and caught me…it all worked out though..we werent married or had kids..so it was a clean break and i learned my lesson.
So yeah, #3 or anyone like #3..i dont feel pity for you. If you’re not married and he is…its time to dump him and find someone (hey, maybe in RL, perhaps) that wants you and give you 100%.Because they never leave their wives/girlfriends.. the girlfriend/wife will be the one to leave, or give them the ultimatum, btw, they’ll pick their wife and family.
Ask yourself…when you started playing this “game”..were you wanting to be a home wrecker? Pixelated or face to face…infidelity is infidelity.
“Pixelated or face to face…infidelity is infidelity.”
I couldn’t have said it better myself. Some call me a prude, but my stance is, sexual or not, romantic online relationships count as cheating. You’re still getting emotionally involved with someone that’s not your RL love. I don’t see the point in developing an intimate relationship that can never go anywhere.
Make all the friends you want in SL, but if you’re taken, you’re taken. End of story.
….but but but
@ honest advice
well when you think about it, do you really wanna be with someone who installs that kind of crap on your computer and spys on you?
@Dagny:
Have you ever played roleplaying games based on books and character sheets and dice? It’s the same thing. I play in the City of Lost Angels, it’s a “dark roleplay” sim, I don’t go there to roleplay sex, it’s just something that happens. My boyriend knows about it, I’d easily play with him watching (I don’t because it’s such a waste of my time with him if I stay on the computer while he’s here with me, but I would if he wanted me to) and not avoid what I do normally, I’d let him read all my past logs in the game. In character is one thing. I NEVER let my roleplaying get on me, for example, I’ve never been aroused by a sex scene in an RPG. And even if I get upset because of someting in a roleplay, I’ll refrain from playing for a while until I figure out why it got me upset (or I’ll even stop playing that specific game altogether, it has happenned before).
And yes, I know it’s hard for people to understand how someone can split apart those things so completely, but it happens, and it’s what happens to me, I don’t EVER mix things.
Another thing I forgot to point out: it’s NOT the same thing as #3. She (she?) claims to have “loved” before his wife showed up in SL. I don’t love anyone in SL. I did make good friends, but they’re friends, just friends. And if I ever find out something who has roleplayed sex with my character in SL has a wife (or husband, or girlfriend, or boyfriend) who doesn’t understand the whole in-character stuff, I’ll stop roleplaying such things with the person. Period. Same goes for if I suspect the player is growing feelings for me the player, I’ll stop roleplaying stuff with said player.
*Someone, not something. Argh.
@#2 – If only the mute button worked in real life.
@Dancien – LOL
#2? Because just muting someone when you see they are doing something wrong means you become part of the problem. Being an adult means you need to try become part of the solution.
YES.
in MOST cases… when a married man comes to SL and has SLex with someone, it’s not OK with his wife, even if she pretends that it is.
Well said Winter.
Lucilla: methinks thou dost protest too much. Now put away that rock and back away from those glass walls.
Where cheaters really piss me off is because I have relationships inworld that my husband knows about and agrees to. He’d get the same clearance from me if he weren’t busy with his own SL stuff. Hiding the fact you’re having cybersex from a partner is not cool unless you’ve discussed matters and the partner would rather not hear about it. But damn it all, open communication is what makes or breaks a marriage. Lying and sneaking around is as open as a locked door.
@Dagny: methinks you confuse protest with explanation. I have no rocks. I have a cookie though, want it?
@clueless
exactly.
On a side note regarding that jerk…He ended up breaking up with me “because of the SL cheating” he said..come to find out he had been seeing a girl off of a popular networking site for months. She moved in the day after i moved out…. They’re married now. LOL.
The only heartbreaking moment in that breakup was he got custody of our pets and the custom computer that he made me “as a gift” when i graduated high school..
In conclusion, #3, i dont think anyone really pities your situation. I’d like to…but seeing as i was previously in your SL love’s shoes..I knew what i was doing was wrong even while i did it and believe me… he knows what he’s doing is wrong too….i dont think you’ve firmly grasped how wrong you’re truly being about the situation. Get help. I promise losing a SL lover is not the end of the world.
@ Winter- I couldn’t disagree more. If someone is acting like a fucktard, it’s time to cut them out of your life. There’s no sense in allowing someone to bring you down with them. I’m not going to waste my time engaging peole in SL who are obstensibly adults and don’t know how to act the part. No one else should have to endure that either.
#3 Tramp.
#2 – I mute if someone is harassing me, I mean really harassing me or in the case of my ex to keep myself from being tempted to respond. Now I am not one to keep my mouth shut and at times I believe in my own twisted mind I have the right to express to someone when I feel as though they are crossing into morally questionable territory, so I am sure I am muted as well. People dont like to hear that kind of stuff at times and would rather just not deal with it.
#3 – I feel the need to clarify a bit. I have issues with marrieds who come in and conceal their behavior from their spouse or others. Now, if the RL partners are in full agreement that virtual is allowed than I am not going to judge them for that. Partners have the right to choose their boundaries as they fit and if both are in agreement, others just need to keep it to themselves.
i have to say in regards to winter’s post.. that sometimes its not possible to solve the problem with the person.. like they just don’t wanna hear your side, don’t wanna give in a inch, and admit they were at fault…. and sometimes they just keep going on and on, bringing on a fight that will never end without hitting mute.. so yeah..
I so want a RL mute button. Can someone invent that please?
As long as men continue to marry sexless women who keep a tidy house, look good on their arms at business meetings but hate sex ,while secretly craving messy, sexy, curvy women like me, there will always be cheating in RL and SL. Ladies, don’t turn into a love withholding stick two years after you get married. Stop demanding that everyone shower before and after and stop belittling him and telling him he disappointed you and maybe he won’t be driven into the arms of someone who makes him feel like a man. Stop treating your wedding ring like the ultimate prize and now you can stop trying. Maybe he doesn’t want to leave his wife because he made a comittment to support her. But why is she in bed every night at eight leaving him to watch porn and cyber me?
Are some of you serious?
Did a church lady convention pull up and the bus emptied just in time to post replies?
Look – it’s called an IMAGINATION.
You must be the same people who think soap operas are real, and that actors doing a ‘kissing scene’ are cheating on their spouses.
ROFL.