Dear Dancien Episode 4: Sad about the lack of clown porn

And now it’s time for Dear Dancien. DearDancien@gmail.com is the email addy, send your questions about SL related stuff that way and I’ll get them answered.

Dear Dancien,

I recently changed my avatar to look more to what someone else said he wanted. Now he wont talk to me. I feel rejected and upset. I dont understand why he’s still not interested in me

Signed

Changed

Dear Changed,

Did the guy actually say he wanted you to changed your appearance? I’m going to go ahead and guess no. But fear not, I can totally tell you what you did wrong. First, you changed your appearance for somebody else. Which makes you look slightly creepy in that co-dependent stalker sort of way. Change should only occur because you want to change, not because some asshole wants you to look or act differently. People will either like you for who you are, or they won’t. Also, this guy could have not been interested in the first place. At least not in the way you think. If you made an assumption, then that is your bad and you shall learn from it, or not.

–Dancien–

Now for the second email….

Dear Dancien,
I have this friend who won’t just quit picking on me.
She keeps twittering all of these obviously-about-me things, and it’s really making me mad
When I tried to say something, she stopped writing but now her friends won’t quit!
What do I do?
Signed,
Porcupine, Tired of Being Needled

Dear Porcupine,

This person is not your friend, so stop referring to them that way. They are instead yet another Internet inspired douche bag. You called her on it, which is good. Internet Inspired Douche Bags HATE being called on their activities. And now her friends are starting in on it? Reminds me of something my grandmother once said to me. She said “Dancien, unless you’re living with or fucking them their opinion counts for shit”. Idiots like these thrive on the attention, so if you starve them for it they will eventually go away. Also, unfriending and blocking goes a long way for some peace of mind.

–Dancien–

And now for the final email.

Dear Dancien,

what do you do when you just starting writing for pleasure and entertainment, you suddenly find certain people telling you that you should research who the big name bloggers are, and learn who is who before jumping both feet on the blogging scene

Signed,

Clueless.

Dear Clueless,

Fuck that noise, you can blog whenever and however you want. It’s your blog. If people get offended they’ll get offended no matter what you post. And “who is who”? Are you kidding me? The concept of some blogging hierarchy is a tale told by a crackhead. Stepping on toes is half the fun of SL Blogging. It’ll let you know who the good ones are and who are the histrionic drama queens. So keep on trucking, or whatever it is you do while blogging and don’t let anybody but yourself stop you from doing exactly what you want.

–Dancien–

And this concludes this week’s Dear Dancien. Remember, emails can be sent to DearDancien@gmail.com All calls will be kept anonymous. Deadline is Wednesday Midnight CST.